我不完美但我是独一无二

昨晚当传译员的外出服事可以说是为今年的“大项服事”画上了一个句号。可以挂上放假的心情了。昨晚的经历带给我的冲击相当大，我想它的影响力会满溢到我以后的服事心态。

昨晚的交通堵塞可以大大影响我的心情，但是我还算镇定。抵达之前我因错过了转进F Hotel的进口而把车开到进入要去KLCC的highway进口。那时，我慌张起来，若是继续驾驶，我真是可以去“荷兰”了。所以我按了紧急灯，把心一狠，决定reverse driving。女人真是什么都敢做，很危险、很刺激也很狼狈的把车倒退到hotel. 原本计划6点钟抵达Hotel享受晚餐，可是到达的时候已经是7.30，敬拜赞美开始了！不过还好，大会讲员比我更严重迟到，他 8点才到！哈哈，他来之前我还有半个小时跟一些人聊天。

传译时，一些部分我做的很好，但是也遇到几次哑口无言反应不过来的时候。临场反应不过来的时后心里真是不好受，也有好几次挫败与放弃的感觉涌上心头。胜不过挑战的时候唯有驶出责任感、成熟度、坚持到底的精神来继续站在台上。这是我最需要恩典和怜悯的时候。不过不是期待几百个望着我的会众赐我恩典、也不是渴望坐在台下的大牧师们怜悯我，而是我当时的脆弱需要有上帝与自我的恩典与怜悯，不要因为不能有完美的表现而放弃自己或是责备自己。不要因为害怕台下第一排坐着的几位都是资深的传译员而感到被威吓。我是需要恩典与怜悯来接纳自己的脆弱。

其实一边在传译而一边还有时间自我处理心情，我倒觉得有点不可思议，multitasking的功能超高吧！无论如何，靠着那加添给我力量的，我完成了服事，一个很光荣但也很谦卑的经历。若是上帝认为我在这方面可以毕业，不需要再接受磨练的话，我真的以后不想再接这样煎熬的任务。但是若众教会还有这的需要，认为我可以成为众人的祝福而盛情邀请，我的祷告是愿上帝的旨意成就在我身上吧！

做个赶上时代的妈妈！

为生活在互联网和社交媒体时代的儿子，做个赶上时代的妈妈！

雷德雀博士在昨天新海峡时报畅谈有关生活在互联网和社交媒体时代的家长们需如何赶上而不是停留在“老派”的育儿法（'Old style' parenting）。在科技发达的时代，单靠以往一套限制孩子们使用互联网和社交媒体是不足够的。

他鼓励家长们加把劲，赶上电信技术的进步。关注如何教导孩子正面使用科技与通过建立监控系统监控他们的活动和广泛谈论关于网络安全为上策。

雷博士也鼓励家长们要学会倾听自己的孩子，了解他们的世界与感受，并尝试理解他们的趣向。然而，理解和同理并不意味着父母一定要同意孩子的想法。家长需要有明确的界限，传达什么是可以接受的，并向孩子解释原因（如：道德、宗教、安全、经济原因等）。家长也需要敏感于孩子的发展需要和受朋辈影响的重要性。公开与自己的孩子谈论及营造一个双向沟通是高效的育儿法之一。

摘要取自 7月7日 新海峡时报 

http://www.nst.com.my/nation/general/old-style-parenting-is-not-enough-1.314394

作者：Dr Johnben Loy 

http://rekindletherapy.com/rekindle-team/dr-johnben-loy/

改变始于自己 UBAH bermula dari saya

大选成绩不如一般基督徒所期待的换政府结果，大家都感到伤心气馁了。让我以马太福音12：20来安慰你，压伤的芦苇，他不折断；将熄的灯火，他不吹灭，直到他使公义得胜。昨天主日讲道我提到老牧人（施达雄牧师）说：“上帝垂听了你的祷告，但不同意你化解困境的祈求，因为上帝要用困境来塑造你，培养你”。我深信上帝是垂听了大家期待换政府的祷告，可是人民还是需要一些时间以更成熟的实力与心态来迎接换政府。

弟兄姐妹，我深知上帝垂听了我们的祷告，这次的选举，我们要清楚知道是上帝在做主。仔细的看看大选成绩，其实赢的那一方是“赢得很输”，而败的那一方是“败得很胜”！目前将有一班精英领袖在国会代表人民，所以将成立的政府会必须面更大的正义声音来组织他的新政府。让我们在外面的也做好准备来影响更大的改变。

改变（UBAH）需要时间，需要大家一起同心。这次的大选团结了不少的民心，特别是基督徒。以往对政治的冷漠已经是明显的改变，参与度也高幅度增加，这是振奋人心的好现象。一个醒觉的浪潮正冲向我们而来。继续把改变的信息传播出去，因为还有很多在网际网络以外的人需要有机会知道改变的意义何在。

近这三年来自己不知不觉也在推动一个社会醒觉。那就是对特殊人士与他们家人的关怀醒觉。很小的第一步，但是我知道千里之行始于足下。就从自己是特殊人士的妈妈开始，在母亲节为有特殊孩子的家长们写一份深感其痛的勉励信。再来在特殊亲子营会时，说出自己的经历与心声。接下来有机会就到教会或家长小组分享我们带特殊孩子的心路旅程。我深信我是可以跑得更积极，传得更激烈，但是一位妈妈的力量毕竟是有限的。在一个醒觉运动中，是需要更多的醒觉来带动更大浪潮的醒觉。

亲爱的朋友们，同样地，我们对更好的马来西亚的热忱醒觉是需要传递。改变始于自己 （UBAH bermula dari saya），身为公民的你和我，让我们团结一心，继续为更好的改变献上一份绵力！

五月五 我的生日愿望

五月五，一直以来都是我与身边爱护我的人庆祝的特别日子。今年巧遇我国第十三届全国大选之日，可说是举国上下注目又热闹的五月五，突然觉得今年的生日是与祖国和同胞度过，呵呵。既然是这么有历史性的生日，我就写下历史性的生日愿望与大家共勉之！

今年的五月五将是我国前所未有的政治醒觉表态日。我祖国未来的盛衰强弱取决于将胜出的党派的执政理念。我的愿望是让有吃过苦头的政派上任，因为在经过苦难的洗礼后，秉政时除了懂得持守诚实、廉洁及透明的政治理念以外，还有一颗谦卑体恤人民的心。

目前的政治局势是弥漫着宗族主义与宗教歧视。我的愿望是，执政者能尊重与实行立国时宣称的国家原则（Rukun Negara），即是让国民有信奉上苍的自由、各族忠于君国、执政者维护宪法、让正义建立在法治的基础上，在法律面前人人平等与培养全民有素雅的德行。

最后，身为一位妈妈与有特殊需要人士的妈妈，我的愿望是政府能为我们的孩子建设友善、健康、安全的成长环境。提供孩子们合理的教育资源分配与教育机会。至于我们的特殊宝贝，我的愿望是政府能针对他们的弱点作出适合教育计划与设施，使他们也能够得到均等的学习时间与机会。我希望社会关怀部门能促进大众对他们特殊情况的醒觉与接纳，以致他们的家人能在人间获得一份的尊敬与体谅。

第一次一口气许下这么大的愿望，深知这不是我私人的愿望而已。这些愿望是需要大家手中明智的一票才能梦想成真。希望你与我一起祈求，大家共同朝向一个更好的马来西亚目标。五月五，齐盼望，新政府，让这些意愿能诚心所愿。

May 5th My Birthday Wish

May 5th used to be a day which I celebrate with people who love me. But this year it coincides with our nation's 13th General Election. Suddenly I feel my birthday is celebrated with the whole nation. Since it is such a historical birthday, I would like to share my historical birthday wish with you.

This 0505 is a political awareness declaration day. The future of our nation will be very much in control by the winning party. Therefore my wish is to let those who have been through suffering to have the ruling power, because I believe that the suffering that they have experienced will make them humble and sensitive to the needs of the people. They are more likely to be honest, clean and transparent.

There is racism and religious discrimination in the current situation. I wish that the incoming government will respect and uphold our Rukun Negara principles, which are Belief in God, Loyalty to King and Country, Supremacy of the Constitution, Rule of Law and Courtesy and Morality.

Lastly, as a mother and a mother of a son with special needs, I wish the government will give our children a friendly, healthy and safe environment to grow. Let them have an equal opportunity of resources and education. For children with special needs, I wish the government will design and implement a special education plan that meets their individual learning needs and give them equal learning time and opportunity. I also wish the social concern department will create more awareness campaign to promote love and acceptance both to the special children and their families.

Phew, this is my first time writing such magnanimous birthday wish. I am fully aware that this is not my wish alone. To accomplish all these, we need your precious vote. Let us pray toward a same goal and wish for a better Malaysia. Amen.

Why is he so arrogant?

A doctor entered the hospital in hurry after being called in for an urgent surgery. He answered the call asap, changed his clothes & went directly to the surgery block. He found the boy’s father pacing in the hall waiting for the doctor. On seeing him, the dad yelled:

“Why did U take all this time to come? Don’t U know that my son’s life is in danger? Don’t U have any sense of responsibility?”

The doctor smiled & said:

“I am sorry, I wasn't in the hospital & I came as fast as I could after receiving the call…… And now, I wish you’d calm down so that I can do my work”

“Calm down?! What if your son was in this room right now, would U calm down? If your own son dies now what will U do??” said the father angrily

The doctor smiled again & replied: “I will say what Job said in the Holy Book “From dust we came & to dust we return, blessed be the name of God”. Doctors cannot prolong lives. Go & intercede for your son, we will do our best by God’s grace”

“Giving advises when we’re not concerned is so easy” Murmured the father.

The surgery took some hours after which the doctor went out happy,

“Thank goodness!, your son is saved!” And without waiting for the father’s reply he carried on his way running. “If U have any question, ask the nurse!!”

“Why is he so arrogant? He couldn't wait some minutes so that I ask about my son’s state” Commented the father when seeing the nurse minutes after the doctor left.

The nurse answered, tears coming down her face: “His son died yesterday in a road accident, he was in the burial when we called him for your son’s surgery. And now that he saved your son’s life, he left running to finish his son’s burial.”

Moral-Never judge anyone….. because U never know how their life is & what they’re going through”

The whisper of our hearts

The Lord knows... and He is with us.

Yesterday when Vincent, Andrew and I were looking at the menu outside this restaurant, I wanted so much to taste this Chinese cuisine. But the two western taste buds guys were not keen at all. So we have to move on. I told them, I am going to have someone to bring me here to enjoy the food soon.

This morning, Phoebe called to say that we are going to meet in this place. Wow! This is how we are connected in the Lord. The Lord knows us and He is with us ... no wonder the fellowship is so sweet. Thanks to Yu Chiet and Phoebe for the wonderful lunch and fellowship. The Lord has heard us and so do we have heard one another.

N 年的回忆

During our youth days, 5 of us went on a short mission trip, visiting a few churches and para organization in Selangor and Perak. The people whom we visited were blessed and needless to mention that it left a long lasting impact in our walk in Christ. 3 of ended up serving the Lord full-time and the other 2 were faithful members in the church.

Years later, when I was looking for a school for Victor, I remembered a wonderful place we stopped by during the meaningful trip. The place that left a great impact on my memory is Bethany Home. The application for Victor to study in Bethany Home was successful and he has been there for the last 9 years.

Little do I know that this mission trip during my young and adventurous days has brought lasting memories, strength to my faith and connected my family to a wonderful place for Victor. Praise the Lord.

非凡的一天

睡觉睡到自然醒是一件很幸福的事。但是在身负重任的今早肯定不敢去渴望这样的幸福吧！

今早的出殡仪式设定在10点，所以说好9点30分就开始聚合。昨晚也跟诗琴与莉珊约好9点在教会会面然后一起过去吉英姐妹的家。昨晚在追思礼，触动心情的时刻很多，回到家后，迟迟都不能入睡。经验谈，明天大可能会有身体不适的状况出现。通常在6点多，Andrew 和 Vincent 起身时，我都醒过来。但是昨晚，不敢轻心，自己调好8点的闹钟避免有误。

今早，打开眼睛，望一望时钟，喔……是8点50分。镇定！镇定！先打个电话给莉珊，叫他们先过去，起码丧家看到有教会的人来会比较安心。然后我就赶快洗涮，在9点5分赶出门。一路顺风，9点25分抵达。9点30分吉英姐妹的孩子，孙子都还在屋内，没人出来。9点40分一些亲戚走进来。再过5分钟，吉英姐妹的大女婿与两个男孙从加影赶到。心想，他们不会以为是10点才聚合吧！经过一番的招集，大家终于坐好，看看时钟……大概10点了！在主里的时刻他使万物美好。呵呵，看来，我是没有迟到。

我一直在想，为何没听到Andrew 和 Vincent起床、出门的声音？为何8点钟的闹钟响我一点感觉都没有？不会是没响吧！自己能沉睡到这么“聋”的情况实在是少之又少。

从早上到现在，我还是很精神。在外一整天了，一丝头痛的感觉都没有。嗯……我深信早上多睡的一个多小时就是这一整天感觉良好的关键。在身负重任时还可以睡觉睡到自然醒真是很幸福的事。阿爸父的贴心安排，让我感到很温馨，甜美。

Photo by: Christie Kok @ New Zealand

Challenged the nOrm

In 1986 a football team that lived on a little island in the south of Thailand called "Koh Panyee". It's a floating village in the middle of the sea that has not an inch of soil. The kids here loved to watch football but had nowhere to play or practice. But they didn't let that stop them. They challenged the norm and have become a great inspiration for new generations on the island.

TMB bank have launched a new brand vision "Make THE Difference" 

by making a film to inspire people to start thinking differently. 

With a hope that they will start to Make THE Difference to their own world. 

It doesn't have to be big, but a little can create positive changes.

Empty Chairs at Empty Tables

“here's a grief that can't be spoken. there's a pain goes on and on. 

Empty chairs at empty tables, now my friends are dead and gone.”

10th Anniversary October 1995 at the Royal Albert Hall Version.

Grief is the silent, knife-like terror and sadness that comes a hundred times a day, when you start to speak to someone who is no longer there. (Edgar Jackson)

Charles Swindoll, Growing Strong, p. 171.

标杆

2013年初，在观摩一次的真实辅导后，发现要当专业辅导员是必须谨慎遵守辅导学的原则。这跟一般的教牧辅导运作方式有不同之处。今天在上雷博士的辅导原理课时，跟同侪在讨论有关助人的风格时，理出了一个“要当辅导员，但又不愿意放下牧者心肠”的新标杆 - “不超越辅导的界限，不减少牧者的关怀”。