Saturday, 31 March 2012

2011 营会心得


Andrew Cheah(学生 Form1, Tabernacle of David)
我(所照顾)的小孩(他的长相)和我蛮像的,很多人都说我们像兄弟。刚开始的时候他有点怕我,不接近我。他父母和我分享说如果我去追他的话他会跑得更远,所以我必须坐在那里等他自己来找我。他很喜欢玩拼图,今天在制作月饼的环节里他也自动的让我带他去洗手,他还告诉我他非常开心因为我有帮忙他。在这营会里我学习了(何谓)耐心。

图与文摘自: 特殊孩童营会相簿

Thursday, 29 March 2012

Hello Kitty


Hello Kitty was first created by Sanrio in Japan in 1974. Kitty, Mimmy, and the rest of the family live in a house in the suburbs of London, England. Hello Kitty is the height of five apples, and the weight of three. Some of her hobbies include baking, traveling, learning new things, playing sports, and spending time with her friends.

Information taken from "Hello Kitty Sweet, Happy, Fun Book!: A Sneak Peek Into Her Supercute World".

      

        

        

60年婚姻的秘诀

The Shoebox

A man and woman had been married for more than 60 years. They had shared everything. They had talked about everything. They had kept no secrets from each other except that the little Old woman had a shoe box in the top of her closet that she had cautioned her husband never to open or ask her about.

For all of these years, he had never thought about the box, but one day the little old woman got very sick and the doctor said she would not recover. In trying to sort out their affairs, the little old man took down the shoe box and took it to his wife's bedside. She agreed that it was time that he should know what was in the box. When he opened it, he found two crocheted dolls and a stack of money totaling $95,000.

He asked her about the contents. 'When we were to be married,' she said, ' my grandmother told me the secret of a happy marriage was to never argue. She told me that if I ever got angry with you, I should just keep quiet and crochet a doll.' The little old man was so moved; he had to
fight back tears. Only two precious dolls were in the box.

She had only been angry with him two times in all those years of living and loving. He almost
burst with happiness. 'Honey,' he said, 'that explains the doll, but what about all of this money? Where did it come from?' 'Oh,' she said, 'that's the money I made from selling the dolls.'


Tuesday, 27 March 2012

我活在神的同在中(下)

Last week was heavy due to a number of works at hand needed to be done for the weekend. By Saturday night, I can feel my brain was well used and 有点脑麻痹的感觉 (a numbness sensation in the brain). Those of you who have been sharing my workload, I would like to say "Thanks for journeying with me." I would like to share with you how this wonderful week ended with a miracle . 

As I was preparing a Via Dolorosa devotion which climax to April 8th
Easter service in Chinese Church and in the midst of preparing lectures for BCM's classes in the coming term to teach on Life of Christ, I was hinking
about the Holy Land again. It was an unspoken desire; it will be nice if I can step in the Land again and refresh my memory and feel the life of Christ on earth again.

My last visit to the Holy Land was about 15-16 years ago (before Andrew was born), which not only left me with cognitive knowledge about the Land but also a special encounter which brought my heart closer to our Lord. So …that visit has a 珍贵的角落 (a special corner) in my heart.


During Sunday service, I plan to bring everyone to experience Via Dolorosa by circling the hall as i lead the devotion for each station. I told the church, since we can’t do this in the Holy Land, let us do it here. Someone in the group appreciate what I was doing because she said it is now very costly to visit the Holy Land. It was a good experience on Sunday even though there are rooms for improvement on the devotional write up. 


I ended the service by listening to a song and as we all move out to have our breakfast, at the doorway, someone walk up to me, passing me a bottle of olive oil from Jerusalem and a broacher in his hand saying: “If you are able to make it this November, I would like to pay for your study tour to Israel.” I was not sure what I heard so I ask again, “You are talking about me going to Jerusalem? Are you serious? Oh! I want to cry now!...” I was pleasantly surprised by the offer.  It is KAIROS!

Last Saturday, as I was laying on bed .... thinking about a project; a Via Dolorosa devotion study publication for 2013 Easter. I am thinking about ways to enhance both the knowledge and the experience part of the project. I believe the less than 20 pages Via Dolorosa devotion study project will bless many Chinese speaking Christian. 


Now I am going to the Holy Land in November, wow! I will be ON TIME to bring back some jewels for the project. It is KAIROS!

As usual, many worries and concerns arises within seconds. The main one is, if I go, means I am going miss the final subject for Dip. in Counseling again!! The course will only be conducted in November this year and i need this final subject for graduation. 
(I missed this last subject 2 years ago due to working on Key Magazine for BCM). Secondly, how about Victor, I think it is going to be school holiday too (9th Nov onward). 

Never the less, the conviction to go was strong and intense. I walked back to main hall, and tell the kind sponsor that, “Thank you for the offer. I WILL GO!”

Yesterday, came back from class, I found my sponsor for the trip already drop the application form in my inbox... saying: I believe our father God wants to bless you for this trip. Thank Him to fulfill your heart desire. It is a wonderful invitation by the Lord and my sponsor. God knows the desire of my heart!


Updates: 
2012 Apirl 19th
Miraculously, the date for the subject I have to attend was re-scheduled twice, and finally it falls on 25-26 Oct, 29-31(1pm) Oct. Another Kairos!

2012 July 27th
Flying on 31(10.20pm) Oct!! (the same i finish my class) RJ181 31OCT KUL/AMM 2220 0515 - flight via BKK. Back on 16th Nov.


2012 August 25th
Victor is attending 32nd Handicamp of Bethany Home from 16-19 November. Bethany is trying to arrange for Victor to stay with one of the teacher from 10th to 15th Nov, means he don't come home until i am back fr the trip :-)


2012 September 2nd
Andrew has signed up for SU camp - 12th to 17th Nov. 




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Wednesday, 21 March 2012

我活在神的同在中(上)


1) 终于成功为教导事工所设的部落格命名。在整理档案时,看到了在今年1月3日收集的“五饼二鱼”(5 loaves 2 fishes)影片有所共鸣,所以立刻处理了开设部落格一事。晚上跟在新加坡上课的妹妹聊天提起此事,她说:真巧,今天她为一个人祷告时,刚提起 “五饼二鱼”一事。

2)早上在做家系图功课时,需要确定对自己上几代的长辈有正确的称呼,所以用了些时间收索有关在这方面的资料。晚上,佳锝把光华日报的“祖宗的称呼”转载在面子书上。

3)晚上,心血来潮,要把面子书的Cover Picture更新。刚好万杰在旁做功课。他教我如何下载面子书的封面图片。挑了一阵子,终于感觉跟“
SPRING”这个画面有共鸣。今早,一打开面子书,就看到John Tracy Clinic 的update如此写:Spring is officially here at JTC!...


4)刚刚在阅读有关“基督生平”的书籍。可以感到圣灵顺序的带领我把一些参考书拿出来做对比。手上一本自己非常喜爱的Robert H Stein的英文书是主要的参考书。当我翻到《读经的艺术》页155时,竟然看到“斯坦因”,Stein 的中文译名。

我非常熟悉以上上帝与我沟通的方式。

他在告诉我 – 前进吧!我与你同在。

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Tuesday, 20 March 2012

前进的动力



September 4, 2011

“I cannot rejoice over the fact that Victor is deaf, but neither am I feeling bitter about it. I believed in the God that I served. There must be a purpose behind this. It could be that God is trying to enlarge our love to minister to the unfortunate one or preparing us to understand and stand beside certain people that may come on our way. ”
This was my journal on Oct 9th 1993; 6 months after Victor was born. After 18 years, I was given the opportunity to share my special journey of grace with a special group of parents. The culmination of years of preparation is finally put forth to bless others. Thanks to the God that I served!


Sharon Chelvi Moorthy: Beautifullysaid, Bee Leng! So blessed & inspired by your journey of grace and God's faithfulness... everything in His perfect time & plan! Hugs! :)

Cindy Chow: ‎*hugs*

Siow May Wong: ‎**so touch**.... ^^

Carrie Chua: Well Done sister. JIA YOU!

Kala Vathy: Nobody can say it with more truth than a mother who has walked the path…U are a good role model to others. Keep sharing your stories for others who are yet to walk down the path…God Bless You. Hugs to Victor..

Mui Ing: His purpose is getting clearer as time go by. I believe God has given you the extra grace to embrace Victor and his journey. Love you and hug hug

Peter N Christine Chong: We have seen how faithfully you have served Him and you are an inspiration to us and to others. May God continue to shine His light upon you and your family.
Hats off to you Ps Bee Ling as you march forward to fulfill God's purpose in your life.

Tan Poh Kian: so encouraged by your words and life as a mum. May we keep up the good faith that only found in Him!

Ailin Loh: a testimony of love and grace. proud of you & victor...

John Lu: God makes us special to do special things. Great are the special parents and greater are the special children.

Sophia Voon: So proud of you. U r such an angel.

Andrew Lim: Thank you Ps Bee Leng for your faithfulness in serving the Lord. Indeed, your love toward your family not just has inspired us, but also a living testimony of God's love. Thank you,
sister.

Daniel Kok: there are some things which we cannot explain.

Eunice Lawrence: Sometimes, we do not understand why God allow us to go through some things in life. At the end of it there is always a purpose that He already plan and it is always a
beautiful plan. U are truly a blessing to many.

Alum Bcm: You are GREAT b'cos of our GREAT GOD...His grace is sufficient for you for HIS GLORY...Indeed, your life and your family have given Glory to HIM...Keep sharing for many will be encouraged as I am encouraged! Keep going : )

Esther Mah: We love you, Pastor Bee Leng!

Jonathan Tan Lee Seng: TQ for sharing your journey of grace! I can only say with the comfort that you've found, you are now able to comfort others that require comfort. II Cor. 1:4

Like: Angela, Irene Chong, Trix, Vivien, Ailin, Judith, Raondong, Mariah, Kayle, Mui Ing, Cindy, May, 立文, Eileen, Sam Oon, Siow May, Poh Kian, Andrew Lim, Jonathan Tan, Samuel Tan, Avis, Jennie, Siang Hwa, Ken Liew, Andrew Cheah, Kala, Sean, How Hing, KayRen, Esther, Connie, Mish Nikohl, Katherin, Catherine, Vivien Chong, Lee Hui, Sharon Chelvi, Eunice, Joyce Wong, Joan Seetho, AnthonyTong, Michelle Tan, Stella, Pin Yuen

Saturday, 17 March 2012

因为我是你的家後

上个礼拜第一次听到这首闽南歌“家后”(Wife),立刻就给几行的歌词扣住心旋。

这位太太带着浓厚传统家庭观念画出她对丈夫深厚的感情。我想她不单是每天无微不至深深的爱护着她的丈夫,连谁要先离开她都希望可以安排的最妥当。

她的矛盾在于,如何与一起携手生活了这么多年的丈夫分手。这段婚姻该如何结束?如果可以让她选择谁先离开,哪该是谁先离开,这个选择的基础又是什么呢?这个问题我与丈夫也讨论过,比较实际的说,是你先去世还是我先去世呢?

因为我是你的妻子,从年轻就把自己的青春奉献给你的家庭,看透了所有的人情事故,还是觉得你最重要!

因为我是你的妻子,我不要让你寂寞,如果在年老时,没有子孙陪伴你,那就我就让你先走,因为我不想看到你孤单流泪。

因为我是你的妻子,我不愿过一天没有你的生活。如果在 年老时,有子孙陪伴你,那我就自私点,让我先走吧!

待接......

Tuesday, 13 March 2012

沟通滤镜

过滤器材的功能是改变通过它们的东西。空调的滤网出去空气中尘埃;相机镜头的滤镜改变光线的特性;咖啡机的滤纸让香味通过而滤掉咖啡渣。同样的,通过“沟通滤镜”(communication filters)的讯息,就会和原来的意思不同。《快乐夫妻成长指南》,75-6页。《指南》,76-81页所提到的五种滤镜:分心、情绪状态、信念与期待、风格不同与自我保护都曾经在我与他人的沟通上出现。当我在电脑前工作或疲累时,往往会有分心与情绪状态的滤镜而不专心聆听身边的人。通常我都会告诉表达者我的状况,希望再找个机会沟通。


当我对某个人有期望,加上我与对方的处事风格有别时,信念与期待和风格不同的滤镜就会出现。例如:面对一位我认为是懒惰的基督徒时,他所说的一切都会被我的滤镜来否定。我会认为他跌倒是因为他不祷告、不读经。


我觉得自己使用自我保护的滤镜是比较严重的。害怕被拒绝是我成长期的挣扎。常常都会有先入为主的心态说,不是自己的错、是别人耽搁了我以致我不能达到完美。所以在对话时就会有筑起一道围墙来自我保护。


图片摘自:
http://dc.pconline.com.cn/jiqiao/baodian/0901/1548749_1.html
http://myrivendell.wordpress.com/2011/04/05/communication-filters-and-you/



Thursday, 8 March 2012

山谷同路人

对于在面临改变中的家庭,我该是有耐心并注重陪同他们走过山谷。

陪同他们走过“过程”比催促他们“到达”结局来的重要与有意义。

我会相信家里的成员是有能力处理他们的事情与情绪及到达一个新平衡。







图片摘自:Tibet valley, China
http://www.asiagrace.com/china/tibet-valley.php

Tuesday, 6 March 2012

嗯嗯


生命的两面


一颗茂盛的树,有看得见的树干也有隐藏的树根。

每一个外在的行为背后也隐藏着一些内在的心理动机。萨提亚模式(The Satir Model)的冰山伦理告知,水平面之下隐藏着的价值观有感受、观点、期待、渴望与自我。

若我们水平之下是耶稣所赐的活水泉源、生命源头,那我们的生命就永远不渴(约4:14),永远得着滋养。愿我们是一颗根深叶茂,栽于溪水旁的树,在河边扎根;炎热来到,并不惧怕,叶子仍必清翠;在干旱之年毫无挂虑,而且结果不止。(耶17:7-8)

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Friday, 2 March 2012

From the Book

Some decision making has to be based on the Book and not
by feeling.
The Book has clear rules, direct instructions, sound advices and proven methods.
“Do not let this Book of the Law depart from your mouth;
meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful.”
Joshua 1:8


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Let everyone be serious in reading the Book ... like her!